BIL 2012 - Sex Geek Salon in the Boiler Room

Deep within the loins of Queen Mary lurks something sultry. Something salacious. Something aching for release.

At BIL 2012, that something will explode from the passionate crevices of her Boiler Room.

Are you prepared for

Masque's Sex Positive Boiler Room?



What is the Masque Sex Positive Boiler Room? 


Two days full of curated 25 and 15-minute talks and 45-minute workshops  hosted by some of America's leading sex geeks and relationship educators on a wide spectrum of topics each devoted to helping BILders create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression happens to be. 


Who gets to speak and who get to attend?


This year's 15-min, 25-min talk and 45-minute workshop/discussion panel hosts have been lovingly curated by the benevolent dictatorship of Reid Mihalko and The BIL 2012 Sex Geek Squad. You will be informed if you are a curated Masque Sex Positive Boiler Room Host some time before BIL. Other sex geeks will be able to sign up for talks on the Side Stages upstairs the morning of. Anyone 18-years and over may attend Masque's Sex Positive Boiler Room. Due to the mature, frank nature of our content, please, no children allowed.

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What should I expect in the Masque Sex Positive Boiler Room?

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Expect a lot of amazingly frank, informative, honest and often humorous, R-rated conversation and "edutainment" on all things sex, intimacy, dating and relationship related. Expect to have your assumptions challenged, your questions answered, and your minds blown. No nudity or explicit, NC-17 demonstrations allowed in the Boiler Room (However, what you do in your cabin is the business of consenting BILders!).


Where can I read up on everyone's bio's?


Why here, of course: BIL 2012- Speakers



Saturday, March 3rd - 10:30am to 8pm


10:30 to 10:45 - Join us at the Main Stage for opening ceremonies and BIL's Keynote!


10:50 to 11:05  - I'll Just Stalk you on Facebook: A Story of Fortune and Friendship - Performance/Talk - Rahul Sonnad  Once in a while everyone experiences something extraordinary and the story needs to come out...


11:10 to 11:55 - Geek Sex: How to Get into Your Body When You Live in Your Head - Workshop - Hosted by Sabrina Morgan

Showing geeks, introverts and Aspies how to switch gears from the analytical/verbal to feeling and understanding body language in a way that works for them, as well as how to transition from being in their heads to being in the body in order to be more fully present and obtain more enjoyment from sex.


12:00 to 12:45 - Woman Uncovered: The Whole Truth About What's Up Down There - Workshop - Hosted by Lara Catone

Did you know... There are parts of women's anatomy that are still missing from medical textbooks and anatomical models today? That somehow scientists are still debating the existence of the G-spot and female ejaculate? Discover everything you should have learned and everything you've wanted to ask about the anatomy of a lady.  Lara Catone will map a complete view of women's sexy parts in this R-Rated 45-minutes! Join us in the Boiler Room and learn how to make those sexy parts hum!


12:50 to 1:15 - How To Be a Sex Nerd - Talk - Hosted by "Sex Nerd" Sandra Daugherty

When I took on the moniker Sex Nerd Sandra, I had no idea I'd get thousands of people saying "I'm a sex nerd, too!" I'll discuss this "sex nerd" phenomenon, who we are, what we do best, and how we can do it better! Warning: I will talk about sex. A lot. 


1:20 to 2:05 - Sensual Wonderland (Experiential Workshop) - Workshop - Hosted by Monique Darling

Dive deep into your senses. Tune in to your body. Integrate your playful and sensuous sides. Enter a world of visual delight, delicious aroma, mouth watering pleasure, sensuous touch and healing sound. Dive deep into your authenticity. Extend your awareness and your ability to listen to your body. Monique will be leading us through solo and paired exercises such as erotic feeding (Yes, we'll have snacks for you!), sensation play on your body, sound bath, fragrances to awaken your core being, The "Bossy" Massage ( ! ) and SO much more. Whet your appetite right before lunch, BILders!


2:00 to 3:30 - Lunch!


3:30 to 3:55 - Act Like a Man: Masculinity & Sexuality in Modern America - Talk - Hosted by Charlie Glickman, PhD, appearing courtesy of Good Vibrations

Despite the increasing dialogue about gender roles in modern society, there’s much less discussion of how the rules of masculinity are defined, taught, and enforced. The more we explore these dynamics and how they affect sexuality, the easier it becomes to address them, find new ways of moving through the world, and bring a sense of both compassion and accountability to our lives. Charlie Glickman PhD has been talking about these topics and teaching workshops about them for over 20 years. Come explore what it means to be a man in society and discover how we can respond to, and change these definitions.


4:00 to 4:45 - Blow Jobs With Nina Hartley! - Workshop - Hosted by Nina Hartley

The name says it all. Join blow job expert Nina Hartley in an explosively informative workshop.


4:50 - 5:15 - Pinko Commie Porno Queers: How "Trade Shoots" are changing porn production - Talk - Hosted by Maggie Mayhem

This talk is a down and dirty economic analysis of porn production focusing on the emerging model of independent porn producers cross collaborating and negotiating their way to more sustainable and sex positive porn. When it comes to our porn, what does sustainability and fair trade business practices look like? What changes when performers make the move from independent contractors to independent producers? How do all of these impact sex scene negotiation and the images we consume? Come and find out what happens when "pinko commie porno queers" collaborate together to make movies and change sexual worlds.


5:20 to 6:05 - What does it mean to be Kinky?  - Discussion Panel - Hosted by Anastasia Krylov, Domina Ravish, & Maggie Mayhem

Join some of BIL's kinkiest sex geeks for a frank, 45-min discussion of safety, consent, what it means to be kinky, what kink and BDSM are all about, and how you can figure out which kink might be your kink! 


6:10 to 6:55 - Touch, Breath and Everything in Between: A Tantric Journey - Workshop - Hosted by Ran Baron

Our body is the first step to unraveling and exploring our own mystery. It is the bridge between the conscious and unconscious and the only element on the path of a mystic which is always present, always here and now. In this workshop we will be covering techniques, practices and exercises used by Tantrikas to heighten their awareness, connect deeper to their senses and to their Tantric partners. We will use practices from the worlds of ancient Tantra and Chi Kung to explore our own bodies and learn how to explore comfortable and uncomfortable intimacy, explore connecting to others and ourselves. We will begin to bring consciousness to our touch, our breath and our bodies, in order to discover a pathway towards experiencing our sensation and our sensuality in a completely new and sacred way.


7:00 to 8:00 - Speed Dating - Icebreaking Event - Hosted by Miki Swarthout and Teresa Gonzcy

What would a boat full of single geniuses be without the opportunity to find the perfect mate? Sex Geeks and non-Sex Geeks welcome! 



Sunday, March 4th - 10:30am to 6:35pm


10:30 to 10:45  - TBA 15-min - Talk - Hosted by Jeremy Acord


10:50 to 11:05  - How To Keep A Marriage Hot After All These Years! - Talk - Hosted by Freddy and Eddy


11:10 to 11:55 - What is Sex Positive? - Discussion Panel - Hosted by Reid Mihalko, Nina Hartley, Dr. Carol Queen, Charlie Glickman PhD of Good Vibrations, Simone Bienne of Loveline, Kristen Tribby of The Pleasure Chest

The word Sex Positive is thrown about more and more these days, but what does it actually mean? Is there a Sex Negative, and a Sex Neutral? How does one live a more Sex Positive life? Can you be Sex Positive and still be a virgin? Join some of our finest Sex Geeks for a lively discussion of the term, the lifestyle, it's challenges and pitfalls, and where they think Sex Positivity is going! 


12:00 to 12:25 - Orgasmic Mastery for Men (Women welcome!) - Talk - Hosted by Destin Gerek 

Imagine being able to have full choice over when and even IF you ejaculate... Imagine having Full Body Orgasms that rock your body and soul... Imagine having Multiple Non-ejaculatory Orgasms coursing through your entire body, culminating in a powerful ejaculatory orgasm that far surpasses anything you ever even dreamed was possible! Learn the steps required and walk away with tools to start integrating tonight! While this workshop will have an emphasis on the male experience, women come with an expectation to learn a few things to improve the quality of your sexual experiences, as well.


12:30 to 1:15 - 7 Billion Sexualities: Sexual Diversity Within and Outside Of Cultural Identities - Workshop - Hosted by Dr. Carol Queen

One of the most pervasive notions about sex in our culture -- with often-problematic consequences -- it that there is a "normal" sexuality for men and for women. But sex as it's really experienced is diverse, complex, and individual. We'll delve into this idea and discuss its ramifications for finding appropriate partners, our self-image, getting the sex information you need, swapping shame for self-esteem, and much more.


1:20 to 2:05 - Strap-on, Get Off! - Performance "Edutainment" Workshop - Hosted by Kristen Tribby and Sara Tomchesson of The Pleasure Chest, proud sponsor of the Boiler Room!

Welcome aboard F.U.C.K Airlines!  Whether you are a tourist visiting for the first time or a seasoned traveler, this 45-minute flight will be sure to educate and entertain you. Your flight hosts will take you island hoping through the sometimes bumpy, yet exciting, terrain of strapping it on. We will visit such destinations as: the deep seas of gender play, the undiscovered wonders of anal, and the pleasures of both giving and receiving. Welcome aboard!


2:00 to 3:30 - Lunch!


3:30 to 3:55 - Ask Reid Anything! - Q&A Talk - Hosted by Reid Mihalko

Join professional sex geek and curator of The Masque Sex Positive Boiler Room, Reid Mihalko, and ask him whatever! Really. Anything you want!  


4:00 to 4:45 - Mismatched Mates: Navigating Sexually Disparate Partnerships - Workshop - Hosted by Allison Moon and Reid Mihalko 

Kinky/Vanilla, Mono/Poly, Queer/Hetero, High-Libido/Low-Libido, Slutty/Not So Slutty. As we experience a relationship choice renaissance, we have more options for sexual self-expression than ever. But this doesn’t mean that our partner of choice will necessarily share all our preferences. Mismatched libido can cause shame or neediness. Mismatched kinks may mean an inability to find fulfillment, and mono/poly relationships can foster jealousy, fear and anxiety. Where ever you fall on each spectrum you can learn from relationship blackbelts Reid Mihalko and Allison Moon as they discuss how to make disparate sexual self-expressions work in partnership.


4:50 to 5:15 - Polyamory and Neurochemistry; Strengthening Pair Bonds Through Non-Monogamy - Talk - Hosted by Anastasia Krylov


5:20 to 6:05 - What is Slow Sex and how can it change your Sex Life? - Workshop - Hosted by OneTaste Faculty Rachel Cherwitz and Robert Kandell

For nine years, OneTaste has been at the forefront of the Slow Sex movement educating men and women on how to have richer, deeper and more fulfilling relationships. Our mission: redefine the word orgasm! Whereas the world has been taught about masculine orgasm, very little is known about the other side of the coin.  We are experts in female orgasm.  In this 45-minute, (PG-13) interactive seminar, OneTaste Senior Teachers Rachel Cherwitz and Robert Kandell will discuss the concepts of Slow Sex and its core practice of Orgasmic Meditation (OM). OM is a simple, meditative practice where a man strokes a woman’s clitoris for 15 minutes, without any goal except to feel. It is a practice done between two people that has no goal except to feel what is happening in the moment. OM is not about more climax. It is about expanding the sweet spot of the most pleasurable part of orgasm. Come get a taste of what’s possible in your sex life.  And, in your life.  


6:10 - 6:25 - Sex Negativity in Reproductive Rights Law - Talk - Hosted by Sarah Perry

Does family law treat sex as a bad act deserving of punishment? What functions does a negative judgment toward sex serve for a society, and have those functions become obsolete in our world of widely available contraception? Are there good reasons for the very different treatment accorded men and women in terms of reproductive and parental rights and responsibilities? What advantages and problems would alternative systems have? These questions will be explored with reference to past, contemporary, and future legal systems.



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